I overheard two people talking about their goals, each with two seemingly opposite points of view.
One said, “What if I fail?”
The other said, “What if I’m too successful and I can’t handle it?”
While one person is talking about failure, and one person is talking about overwhelming success, each is in the same place of resistance. Both of these beliefs is in opposition to being in a state of allowance for the goal. The individuals are focused on unknown results instead of focusing on their goals.
Resistance could be a physical state, but it could also be a mental, emotional or energetic state. I’m addressing the latter.
Mental resistance can be show up in several ways. The key here is creating a mindset that is clear from blocks. This often happens when we make excuses such as, “what if I fail?”
The problem with mental resistance is that you’re allowing your thoughts to distract you from the present moment. A negative focus can then distort your belief in the vision, which can lead to mental blocks in the space that you need to do your best work in that moment. In other words, you’re not allowing your belief to flow.
When Bruce Lee said, “Be like water…” he wasn’t done speaking. Most people quote that and nothing else. He went on to talk about the importance of being flexible rather than rigid in his approach.
This is the rest of what he said:
“…making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”
When I coach athletes, whether they are actively playing or retired, this one of the areas that we look at. We talk about hidden self-talk, reframing negative thought habits, choosing an optimal perspective, and tools like mindfulness to learn to adopt a state of flow.
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