Athletes and professionals alike know the importance of communication skills. It’s easy to talk about fun topics, but there’s a different skill set for knowing how to have difficult conversations. Whether you need to address something with someone who is a superior (e.g., your coach or your boss), or you need to talk to a teammate or peer, learning how to prepare and effectively communicate can help ease your nerves and get your point across while maintaining strong relationships.
Effective communication isn’t just about conveying information; it’s about building trust, fostering teamwork, and maximizing performance. Difficult conversations, though challenging, are opportunities for growth and improvement both individually and as a team. In addition, knowing how to have tough talks can benefit your mental health.
The mental health benefits of having good communication skills are plentiful. First, you’ll limit stress and anxiety by being able to address problems instead of allowing them to grow and compound, which can affect your mental and emotional state. Secondly, you gain self-confidence when you speak up for yourself and your needs. This is extremely important because if you don’t feel like your voice is being heard, or you ignore communicating your thoughts, feelings, and needs, it can spiral into other problems. Eventually, everything you hold in will find an outlet, and sometimes, if you’re not careful, it may be an unhealthy one.
Overall, a lack of communication can lead to issues like stress, anxiety, and even feelings of loneliness or isolation. If not managed properly, these can lead to unhealthy ways of relieving stress.
One of the top conversations that people fear is having one with someone of authority, whether that’s a boss, a coach, an administrator, etc. It can feel like there is a lot at stake and be a very intimidating situation. You may also not want to disappoint someone or feel like you’re causing any problems. However, the goal is not to damage a relationship, but rather continue to build one through honesty and authenticity. If you’re hesitant to have the conversation, the first step is to change your perspective.
Common fears might be concerns like:
Here’s the truth: People can’t read your mind. To you, your issue may be something that bothers you day in and day out, but it’s not necessarily something that anyone else sees or knows. The only solution is clear and considerate communication. We’re all humans.
Here are some points to consider:
Your teammate is not just someone you have to count on, but also someone you share a common goal and bond with. Even if you’re not friends in your personal life, for the time that you’re working together, you’re connected. You have to find a way to move as one, which can be difficult when there are many personalities.
The dynamic of a team is something that leaders spend a lot of time invested in. You strive to get everyone into a flow state. While individuals seek out peak performance, it’s also critical to keep in mind that when the team is gelling, everyone is better for it.
To get there, it doesn’t just happen. You have to go beyond conversations about goals with deeper communication. Sometimes, that means having tough talks.
Naturally, you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or cause tension between teammates. Even if you are in a leadership role, approach the conversation as a peer who wants to address something for the benefit of both the team and the individual. People are most often willing to talk if they can sense that you are invested in their well-being.
Preparation can help you manage nerves and help you communicate effectively. Here are some tips to help you navigate hard conversations.
Be a leader in your life by learning to have challenging dialogues. The mental health benefits can make a big impact and so can the benefits of opening doors of communication. It’s better than “going with the flow” for the sake of avoiding a disagreement because while it may make your relationship with the other person “easier,” your relationship with yourself may suffer.
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