This week the topic of mental health is once again trending in the world of the NBA thanks to Adam Silver’s comments in an interview with Bill Simmons. The interview discussed far more than just social media and mental health, but the following quote from the interview is part of what people are having intense discussions about.
“I think there are a few issues going on. One is a larger societal issue… I think we live a bit in the age of anxiety. I’ve read studies on this. I think part of it is a direct product of social media. I think those players we’re talking about when I meet with them, what strikes me when I meet them, they’re truly unhappy. This is not some show they’re putting on for the media… I think to the outside world they see the fame, the money, all that trappings that go with it, they’re the best in the world at what they do. They say, ‘how is it possible that they can even be complaining?’ … A lot of these young men are genuinely unhappy. Some have come from very difficult circumstances and that doesn’t help. Some are amazingly isolated.” – Adam Silver
You can watch the entire interview here:
I’ve heard psychologists say that Adam Silver is generalizing mental health and being critical of his lack of knowledge. I saw another therapist post that it’s not that anxiety is more rampant today, it’s that people are reporting it more. I’ve heard other people say they felt he’s implying every NBA player has a mental health issue. Naturally, there are also those who say that these players have no real problems and shouldn’t have anything to complain about, one of those individuals being NBA legend Charles Barkley.
And then there’s this from Jay Williams on ESPN’s GetUp that aired on Thursday, March 7. Jay drew praise and intense criticism, and that’s just from the people sitting at the table with him, but I am all about his take on the issue.
Before I go too much further, I want to preface what I’m about to say by first saying this. I am not a licensed mental health professional. I didn’t go to school to study mental health. I didn’t complete internships or take any board exams. I’ve lived this. I have been around sports, athletes, and the culture that goes with it, most of my life. I’ve also struggled with depression and anxiety since I was a young teenager. My point here being that I am approaching this from the perspective of someone who hasn’t formally studied this stuff, but has lived it. And perspective is what the bulk of this article is all about because that’s the discussion that I think needs to take place.
Mental health and social media is a conversation in and of itself, which I will address as its own topic one of these days. However, right now, due to the comments sparked by Adam Silver’s interview, it’s important to me that I share some thoughts here.
Mental wellness is a very personal topic. It’s also complicated because people are complicated. So, can we please give Adam Silver and the players a little bit of a break? It’s not in our best interest as we move forward with addressing mental health in society to dismiss how people are feeling or criticize them. (What really annoyed me as well are the “medical professionals” who said Adam Silver misspoke. Does that even f’n matter as long as we’re having a discussion, to begin with? The whole world knows he’s the NBA Commissioner, not a medical professional.) We need to stop assuming what people should or shouldn’t be doing or how they should or shouldn’t be feeling because the reality is that these attitudes are opinions based on our own personal perspectives and your experiences don’t necessarily have anything to do with someone else’s. Perspective is personal.
All that happens when you pass judgment on someone is that you stop the conversation. What people who are struggling with mental health need the most is to feel okay with having a conversation. Inner struggles can be extremely isolating as it is.
Each of us is built differently. We have different experiences and beliefs that began from the time we were born, or even before if you’re like me and believe in reincarnation. If we can learn to look at each other as souls, each with its own unique purpose but with a shared need for love, I think we’ll move from “right or wrong” to acceptance and service. I am sure there are plenty of people who will think I’m too woo-woo for saying that, and maybe I just lost part of my audience, but that’s all fine by me.
The bottom line is I’m me and you’re you so can we please stop judging each other and start allowing each other to be who we are in any given moment? You don’t own my experience and I don’t own your experience so I think we would go a long way if we were just respectful of that.
If there is anyone out there who feels that same way or who wants to discuss more, particularly athletes, let’s chat.
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